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PROLOGUE

Uphill Both Ways, An Anecdotal Memoir

My Dearest Sarah and Patrick,

Before you is a set of stories about your father.  When you wake up one morning and notice that you are not the towhead kid that you once were, you get a first hand look at your own mortality.  It has long been my intention to leave you both with some tangible evidence of your family heritage.  Yes, we have the ancestry tree that has been passed from one generation to another.  That tells JTus the who and the what of those who lived before us.  But it doesn’t tell us anything about the how and the why of those lives.

I know very little about my parents.  There were very few stories about their respective childhoods and certainly nothing written first hand about those events that shaped their lives, their attitudes, and why they did the things they did.  I am sure that both my father and mother experienced pivotal moments in their childhood that affected them, and their children later in life.  I just don’t know what they are.  I have long believed that my parents did a disservice to their children by not revealing their life’s experiences to us.

This is a collection of stories about those events that helped to shape your father into the person you know.  I’m sure you have wondered why I do things the way I do.  You have probably wondered why I think the way I do.  Some of it comes from the teachings of my parents and some of it comes from my experiences with the unique and wonderful people who I encountered along the way.  It all combines into a picture of the life of a person.

As you know,  your grandfather (my father) died of Alzheimer’s disease.  This in no way means that I will suffer the same fate, however that thought does linger in those dark places where I walk alone.  Because of that possibility, I have started writing these stories earlier than I had originally wanted.  I am not afraid of many things in this life, but I am afraid of leaving you.  I’m afraid of not knowing who you are, not knowing Mom, and not knowing your children.  If that time should come, at least I will have documented the pivotal moments in my life so that you can better understand who I am.  I do this for you out of the deepest respect for who you have become.  It is my hope that you will show that same respect for your own children and document those pivotal moments in your own lives for them.

To me, this is an integral part of parenting.  Mom and I raised you both as best we could.  We continue to be available to you, as you need support, advice, and guidance.  As you will undoubtedly find out, parenting doesn’t stop.  It’s a job that you take on for life and it will probably be the hardest job you will ever have.  But, the proudest moment and the greatest achievement in my life was when I earned the title of parent.

With deepest love and respect,

dad

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1,154 Responses to About

  1. sandradan1 says:

    Hi, thanks for finding and following my blog! SD

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  2. pixygiggles says:

    What a wonderful legacy for your children to document your stories in this way. Thank you so much for the follow. I’ve reciprocated and look forward to reading more as I have the time. Take care!

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  3. Thank you for visiting and following my blog. I have returned the favor and look forward to reading your posts.

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  4. Jude says:

    Very many thanks for liking my blog enough to follow it, it’s much appreciated.

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  5. Well done sir!

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  6. Jane Risdon says:

    Beautiful piece and I am sure they will treasure it. I am pleased you are living for today and putting tomorrow away until it becomes your new day. Life is too short to grieve for what is yet to come. Thanks for finding my blog and following me and thanks for bringing me here. I do hope we chat again soon, here to there :)

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  7. What a delightful, charming, and heartfelt premise for a blog…I truly appreciate the follow and definitely returned the favor! :-D Jamy

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  8. Hi JT Weaver,thanks for following,i will definately pass by your page soon. blessings

    Laurna

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  9. The smallest details of our ancestors lives are precious. I am currently transcribing my Mother’s journal regarding her life with my Father before children. I have learnt so much about them and it is a wonderful gift, I am sharing with my siblings. My plan is to make a book of their ‘story’, their letters, poems and photos and family tree, which can be passed down for future generations.

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  10. Ricari says:

    Oh wow, what a wonderful idea, your kids are very lucky!

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  11. Thank you Sir for visiting my very very shanty home…

    Salam manis

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  12. Jeff says:

    I’m giving you The Dragon’s Loyalty Award. I find your blog to be inspiring. Blessings to you!

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    • J T Weaver says:

      Thank you Jeff. I appreciate it.

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      • Jeff says:

        Unfortunately, WordPress has eaten my blog entry. As I was uploading an image, it froze. When I went back, the last draft saved was almost two hours ago, and almost the entire entry was gone. I can’t recreate it.

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        • J T Weaver says:

          It has always been my habit to create my writing(s) in MS Word first, use the Word tools to correct it, save it, then copy/paste over to WordPress. As a retired CS hack I have an inherent mistrust for the reliability of systems. But I have everything I’ve ever written safely pit away. Best of luck Jeff.

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  13. Leya says:

    What s great idea for a blog. I don’t know much about my grandparents’ lives – what I do know comes from my mother. My children knows very much about my life, because we speak and talk much with each other. I guess writing it down would be the best, because we tend to forget…and do not know what will happen to us some minutes, hours, days, years from now. You are a wise man.
    Thank you for the follow, although I do not write much like you do – I hope you will enjoy my posts. I’ll be back!

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  14. Nomzi Kumalo says:

    What a cool dad. A great idea :)

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  15. this is the most beautiful idea for a blog–a memoir to your children!!!! Beautiful.
    Amy

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  16. What a great “About”!! Going to check out your blog some. Thank you so much for following mine!!

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  17. Rachael Charmley says:

    Thanks for the follow! I look forward to reading your fascinating blog.

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  18. Eva says:

    Hi, JT,
    Welcome to the new site!
    Eva

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  19. Thank you for stopping by my blog and following me. What a wonderful gift you are creating for you children. Keep on writing!

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  20. Steve says:

    Thanks for the follow – I look forward to reading your posts. What a great idea for a blog.

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  21. Cheryl-Lynn says:

    What a great idea..I have another blog under a pseudonym doing partly that…most stories are snippets of my past I am processing…soon I want to edit to give some hiStory to my adult children and poetry I have fallen in love with. My mother has Alzheimer, her mother died of this painful disease. Blessings, Cheryl-Lynn P.S. thank you for stopping by my blog.

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  22. Don Royster says:

    Thanks for following my blog. I hope it gives you a little entertainment along your way.

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  23. What a great idea!

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  24. Mich-in-French says:

    Wow JT – an awesome gift to give your children. Thank you for the follow and I am very keen to start reading your posts!

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  25. Great idea for a blog. I wish I had known more about my dad. :)

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  26. thanks so much JT for following my blog, Rob

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  27. dentaleggs says:

    I apologize for the lateness of this thank you. Thanks for visiting the site.
    Eva

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  28. sueslaght says:

    Thank you for following my blog! Fantastic gift you are giving your children.

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  29. ladyfairy27 says:

    amazing dad…i enjoying reading ….cant hold my tears…thank you

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  30. mrsugarbears says:

    Trying to hold back the tears from this lovely post. Your children are very blessed. :)

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  31. I am with you on this. I have so many questions still, but my mother doesn’t want to know, can’t understand why I wish to deliberately hurt her so. She doesn’t get it – it is about understanding. Thank you for the follow JT Weaver, it is really appreciated and Welcome aboard. Hopefully you will find a bit more peace and beauty in my own blog, albeit from very ordinary things. Best wishes in all your endeavours, I know how important they are. MM 🍀

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  32. Dina says:

    Such a beautiful thing to leave your children. My parents are getting older, (in their 80′s), dad’s health is not so great at the moment. Both my parents grew up in a little greek village. Us kids grew up in Australia. Our worlds are so different. It’s those stories that help us to understand.
    What you’re doing here, i think is the greatest gift you can give your kids.

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    • J T Weaver says:

      Thanks Dina, I appreciate it. Maybe you could get your parents to tell you stories and record them on your iPhone. You can transcript them later. You’ll be very glad you did. I’m glad you stopped by and I hope you enjoy the posts.

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  33. edgarone2 says:

    Great idea. Written and expressed. For us others: start now since it may take a long time to write.
    Do you include photos and video if available?

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    • J T Weaver says:

      Than you very much. I included photos as they were available. The “video” wasn’t commonly available when I was growing up :) we even had to deal with the rotary telephone and no internet :) I hope you enjoy the posts.

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  34. panikikubik says:

    Hello, What a wonderful blog and as a mom I can realate to your words so much. My greates,biggest luck and gift and love in my life are my two boys. I’m doing my best to make them feel loved, encouraged and that they are so good as they are as a person.
    I didn’t have that encouragement myself, and it’s a life mission to be there for them . I think you are an absolutely great father. All the best to you and your family

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  35. Heidi Viars says:

    Thank you so much for stopping by my blog. I am glad to have come across your blog and am looking forward to reading more.
    Blessings to you in your parenting and in the passing on of your wisdom :-)

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  36. I couldn’t have said it better myself. I have tried to do these things with my family – I know next to nothing about my father and his parents, so I decided to do a scrapbooking project and asked my family to each just tell one story about their lives to put in it..sadly, I received three out of 30 requests (and one was from someone who had divorced out of my husbands family many years ago, but was doing a similar project for her children after their father died). I wish everyone knew how important this is, to pass on not just the information we can find in census forms, but our history, as people and families…

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    • J T Weaver says:

      Thank you Anna. To my knowledge, despite my encouragement, I’m the only one in my family that has done it. That’s ok, I’m responsible for me, my history, and my family. Thanks for stopping by today, I appreciate it.

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  37. Subhan Zein says:

    I am sure you are an amazing father, JT Weaver. The fact that you dedicate this blog for your children is evidence to this. I commend you for what you do, and wish you the very best of luck. Also, I would like to thank you for following my blog. May the Saturday posts that I write in there be of any use to you. Blessings and love to you ♥

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  38. A Servant says:

    opening up is a scary thing to do. i applaud your courage.

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    • J T Weaver says:

      Thank you very much. I found the whole experience to be enormously healing in many ways. The writing of the book especially but also the subsequent posts as well. I hope you will come back to visit often.

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  39. twistnpout says:

    THis is really so touching. I started a journal to my son when I was pregnant with him (20 years ago). I wrote in it only a handful of times after he was born. As I get older, and my kids get older, I find the need to write to them through a journal once again. I’d like to leave them with something tangible, words of wisdom, witty anecdotes for life – things I always think of, but never remember to tell them when they are around. What a great idea you have here…

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  40. How fun and how precious is the heritage you will leave to your children and grandchildren. My brother and sister traced our family’s history more fully years ago. I always knew we had some known ancestors and it interesting discovering more about them.

    Oh! (talk about memory, almost forgot, :) ) Thank you for following my blog – what an honor, I hope I get to know more about you as time goes on. I did write a blog about memory survival tips a while back. I pray you’ll keep your memory and positive attitude for many years to come! Blessings,

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  41. Pawkisses for a Happy Healthy New Year :)

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